The information that I got on the six core qualities is what today’s focus is!  What is the most remarkable thing for me is what I realize about myself. Because I was the Flower, things came through that I just wasn’t aware of.  That’s just great!

How have you been using your interview and your Flower?

A big thing has just been stepping back. My personality is in some ways starting to come unglued from drama. I am recognizing it quickly so I can just step out of it and into what’s actually going on. That recognition time is much quicker!

Could you give me an example?

My husband and I were home together Sunday. He was working on his computer and I went over help him – I thought – do something with his pictures.  I was thinking it would be faster for him. We started getting into a quarrel about him being on the computer on our day off instead of spending it together. We started to get in a quarrel that I picked with him. Then I realized, “Oh! What I really am wanting, because my back is hurting, is for Norman to rub my back!  Oh! I wasn’t recognizing what I wanted and didn’t ask for it!  I apologized to my husband and said, “What I really wanted was to have my back rubbed and when would you be available for that?”  It was so brief – that drama!

What do you think is the relationship, if any, between your previous NDE interview with your flower and remembering to get out of drama?

I stay with myself rather than distancing from myself.  My needs are closer to my awareness.  The NDE interview helped me to realize, “Oh! This is drama! I don’t want it! I want to have what’s real for me!

May I ask Flower some questions?

Yes!

Flower, how are you today?

I’m excited!

Do you have any idea why Cheryl is catching herself quicker when she gets into drama?

Cheryl: I feel like I just got busted! I can’t get into the Flower right now.

Cheryl, is unable to get into you right now, Flower?

All of a sudden Cheryl got scared and got blank.

Cheryl: The focus on was me…All of a sudden I needed to be accountable?

Staying present! It’s missing for Cheryl! When I stay present it’s glorious!

Is there any reason why Cheryl should be afraid of staying present, Flower?

She’s being on guard of awful things. She has her life confused with “awful is about to happen” But awful doesn’t happen in her life!  She needs to get a chance to experience without that kind of guard, that fear of harm.  She really deserves a chance to live without that!

Do you live without that Flower?

Yes!

What’s that like for you?

As a flower I don’t wait for hurricanes to come. Sometimes they do, but it’s not a fearful thing.

What would you like to see Cheryl get out of our time together today, Flower?

Being less likely to lose me!  To be less likely to lose her natural self! Cheryl doesn’t know that she is losing touch with her natural self until after the fact.   There is some kind of gap in Cheryl that when there is emotion and need she kind of goes blank. She doesn’t recognize the emotion. She doesn’t go into her need. She is off on something else.

Flower, would it help if Cheryl named her feelings several times a day?

She thinks her feelings are awful!

So Cheryl, What are three fundamental life issues that you are dealing with now in your life?

There is a force or energy against me. When I am walking or exercising I feel an energy against me. When I am in pain or constipated, it’s there.  It’s a distraction going on.

There is something I feel I am not letting go of or holding back on but I don’t know what it is.

There is a slight lack of unity with self and others.

Which issue brings up the strongest feelings for you?

The Force that’s against me.

If those feelings had a color (or colors), what would it be?

Purple

Imagine that color filling the space in front of you so that it has depth, height, width, and aliveness.

Now watch that color swirl, congeal, and condense into a shape. Don’t make it take a shape, just watch it and say the first thing that you see or that comes to your mind: An animal? Object? Plant? What?

A square or box – three dimensional.

Now remember how as a child you liked to pretend you were a teacher or a doctor?  It’s easy and fun for you to imagine that you are the shape that took form from your color and answer some questions I ask, saying the first thing that comes to your mind.  If you wait too long to answer, that’s not the character answering – that’s YOU trying to figure out the right thing to say!

Square, would you please tell me about yourself and what you are doing?

I am right in front of Cheryl’s torso.  I’m made of steel.

Why are you there?

I am not wanting to let her go forward.  I thought that was the best thing for her. It’s better to keep quiet. You’re not supposed to say the things you have to say. You are not supposed to feel the pain and sadness that you feel.

What do you like most about yourself? What are your strengths?

I’m solid, sturdy, shiny.  I can do anything!  There aren’t any limits!

What do you dislike most about yourself? Do you have weaknesses?  What are they?

The lack of movement. I’m stuck!

What does that feel like for you to be stuck, Square?

Awful, like I’ll never get beyond being stuck.

She created you, right? What aspect of Cheryl do you represent or most closely personify?

Strength!

Square, if you could be anywhere you wanted to be and take any form you desired, would you change?  If so, how?

I would be an owl.

Square, would you please tell me about yourself and what you are doing?

I’m sitting, I’m patient, I’m wise. Silence is best. I’m hard to see. Not many people see me.

What do you think of that Square you were before, Owl?

Heavy! It weighs me down! I can’t fly with it!  I couldn’t even try!

Do you think Cheryl needs that Square, Owl?

She thinks it protects her, but it doesn’t. It holds her back. She stays behind it, like a wall, staying separate from herself and what she’s here for.

How would her life be different without that Square, Owl?

Freedom! She would be doing what she’s here to do instead of other stuff! To help people with the light she saw when she was a baby!  She knows how to transform what is in other people’s way of their life and health and well-being!

How did you manage to transform that Square into you, Owl?

I wasn’t afraid!  I just did it!

(Continue, answering as the transformed object, if it chose to change.)

Owl, how would you score yourself 0-10, in each of the following six qualities:  confidence, compassion, wisdom, acceptance, inner peace, and witnessing?  Why?

Confidence: 10 I can do anything! I don’t have to be held back. I go with the flow. I am one with my nature.

Compassion: 10 Because I’m loving and patient! I love to observe.

Wisdom: 10 I am bright! I know stuff but not the mind stuff. I go by my nature. It’s already built in. I know how to get my needs met, I know how to fly and get food. Acceptance: 10 What else is there? (Smiling…) It’s just the way it is!  I’m laughing at people that think it’s any different!

Inner Peace: 10 I feel very peaceful as owl! There’s nothing to not be peaceful about! Life is what life is!

Witnessing: 10 That’s exactly what I do! I just sit on my branch and witness!

How would Cheryl’s life be different if she naturally scored like you do in all six of these qualities all the time?

She would be soaring with ease, going with the flow, pain free.

Where would that Square be?

History! She just wouldn’t need it because there is nothing to be afraid of! She kind of makes that up as a way to connect with people.  That’s what she learned after she died and her brother grabbed her arm: connected to her brother and fear. It’s as if she doesn’t know how to live in the people world with others without that fear.  It’s as if being with people and connecting with them requires that old fear. But it’s not a requirement!

If you could live Cheryl’s life for him, how would you live it differently?

I would stop pretending that emotion is required to connect with people. That leads her to drama.  She thinks she doesn’t know how to connect without it.  She doesn’t need to pretend that she needs the fear, anger, and pain to connect to people.  It’s sneaky!  She pretends that she doesn’t know the emotion is there but yet she’s acting on it!

If you could live Cheryl’s waking life for him/her today, would you handle Cheryl’s three life issues differently?  If so, how?

There is a force or energy against me. When I am walking or exercising I feel an energy against me. When I am in pain or constipated.  A distraction going on.

I would join the energy! She feels like it is against her but it is really the light energy inviting her to join it! It reminds her of when she is not one with it!

When she feels it blocking her, what do you recommend she do, Owl?

Join the light! Join the peace! Stop thinking she can have too much of a good thing!

There is something I feel I am not letting go of or holding back on but I don’t know what it is.

Cheryl is engaged in things that are petty when she really wants to be engaged in what really turns her on, what her passion is.  She continues to still sit on her passion. Cheryl is holding back on her passion! Her life would be warm and worry-free with it. She would not have to be so organized!  Not have to worry so much about the physical details – is the house clean? Are the dishes done?

There is a slight lack of unity with self and others.

She thinks that’s there. It’s not, really!  She makes up things that are a problem but they really aren’t a problem.  It’s just part of how it is, part of life!

What three life issues would you focus on if you were in charge of Cheryl’s life?

1. Love

2. Peace

3. Joy!

In what life situations would it be most beneficial for Cheryl to imagine that she is you and think, feel, and act as you would?

When she starts to get worked up! When negativity comes in – that this should be this way; when it’s not, she gets worried and afraid.  If she became me at those times she would know when to just be and not to cultivate a mountain out of a molehill. She needs to just sit on the branch, like I do!

Owl, do you do drama?  If not, why not?

I don’t do drama! Drama’s ridiculous!  It doesn’t solve anything!  It’s a waste of time!  It’s so contrary to spirit!

What is your secret for staying out of drama?

Presence! Just being! Observing!

Why do you think that you are in Cheryl’s life?

To know she has a choice! She can at any moment she can pick presence instead of drama!  At any moment she can be true to herself or abandon herself and get involved with drama!

How is Cheryl most likely to ignore what you are saying to her?

Be a brat!  “I’m going to do it my way no matter what!” Her way is not always aligned with her own spirit!

What would you recommend that she do about that?

Stop self-destructing in that way!  She just needs to know that going with the flow is OK! That she deserves to have this peace and freedom!  She’s come this far…she might as well go all the way!

Cheryl, what have you heard yourself say?

Be yourself! Being something else or someone else is awful!  It’s self destructive whether it lasts for a minute or five!  It doesn’t serve me! I am seeing drops into water and how each ripples out.  Even if it is for a second it still effects me afterward. I have a choice in what I want to reside in me. Instead of this stuff I get worked up in me I want the peace to reside in me, the peace, the fun, the happy-go-lucky in life!

If this experience were a wake-up call from the most central part of yourself, what do you think it would be saying to you?

Freedom! Freedom is mine!  I am not locked behind that Square, that wall!  That I’m already me and it’s a cinch to live accordingly!

Is there anything you want to take away from this interview to apply in your everyday life between now and the next time we talk?

Being the Owl and recognizing the difference between the owl and the square!

I could write that intention on a sticky note and carry it around!

I can name what I am feeling several times a day. Ask myself what I am feeling and name it periodically throughout the day.  Am I happy, sad, scared, confused, angry, impatient, relaxed…what?  Then to not have any judgement about the feeling – just naming it and moving on.

Read over this interview before going to sleep!

Notice that Cheryl’s steel Square, the energy that blocks her is actually a wake-up call from the same light that she had in her NDE.  She is misperceiving it as a barrier when Owl says that “it is really the light energy inviting her to join it! It reminds her of when she is not one with it!”

Notice that Cheryl is making huge strides at recognizing when she is drama and choosing to get out of it.  There can be no inner peace with drama; to eliminate drama it must be dealt with in the three realms: interpersonally and externally, in our thoughts and feelings, and in our night time dreams.

Will Cheryl follow these recommendations? If so, what will be the result? Stay tuned!

Mystical experiences are to living what lucid dreaming is to the dream state: a waking up into a broader, inclusive, transcending perspective that has the potential to heal, balance, and transform your life. Perhaps the most common type of mystical experience is the near death experience with somewhere between five and eighteen percent of the population having experienced one. The most frequently reported elements of NDEs are overwhelming love, telepathy, life review, divine being(s), ecstasy, unlimited knowledge, experiencing of afterlife levels, and being told one is not ready to die, with over 45% of respondents reporting these events. (Atwater) A tunnel, the NDE element that is addressed in the following IDL Dream Yoga interview, is reported by some 42% of respondents, as it is by Barbara Whitfield in her report of her NDE. For her second NDE, which does not contain the interviewed tunnel, but is important and beautiful, as well as to learn more about Barbara’s experiences, see www.barbarawhitfield.com and Barbara_Whitfield.blogspot.com

People in white came rushing in. It was a dramatic scene, just like those you see in hospital dramas on television. I had no idea what was going on because I hadn’t become a respiratory therapist yet. It seemed like everybody was pushing carts and machinery, throwing things back and forth over me. They hooked me up to all kinds of machinery, tubes, monitors and bags. Overwhelmed emotionally, I lost consciousness and later that night woke up in the hall outside my room. I floated back into the room and saw my body. I felt peaceful, more peaceful than I had ever been in this lifetime. Then I went into a tunnel where I was greeted and held by my grandmother who had been dead for 14 years. Before this I had never once thought about her surviving her death. I didn’t believe in that. But now I knew I was with her. Her love enveloped me and together we relived all our memories of each other. I could see and feel all this through her eyes and her feelings of each moment too. And I know she experienced how her actions and her love had comforted me in my childhood.

Suddenly I was back in my body, back in the circle bed. Two nurses were opening my drapes. The sunlight was startling. It hurt my eyes. I asked them to close the drapes. I tried to tell my nurses and then several doctors that I had left the bed. They told me that it was impossible and that I had been hallucinating.

Go to www.barbarawhitfield.com and Barbara_Whitfield.blogspot.com to contact Barbara regarding her experiences or about NDEs in general.

What happens when you interview an element in a near death experience using IDL Dream Yoga? How are NDEs similar to or differ from other mystical experiences that are interviewed?  How are the results similar or different from interviews of dream characters or the personifications of life issues? What can we learn about near death experiences from such interviews?  What sort of  contribution to the field of NDE research can IDL Dream Yoga make? Can it help those who have experienced NDEs to continue to learn and grow from their experiences even years after they have had them? What are the implications for those who have not had NDEs?

What are three fundamental life issues that you are dealing with now in your life?

1 Make my new book into a movie.

2 One of my books was just rejected by a publisher. I have to accept that.

3 My granddaughter is starting nursery school – letting go.

If one character had something especially important to tell you, what would it be?

Black Tunnel

Now remember how as a child you liked to pretend you were a teacher or a doctor?  It’s easy and fun for you to imagine that you are the shape that took form from your color and answer some questions I ask, saying the first thing that comes to your mind.  If you wait too long to answer, that’s not the character answering – that’s YOU trying to figure out the right thing to say!

Black Tunnel, would you please tell me about yourself and what you are doing?

I am the peace that Barbara comes to. She started coming to me when she was a little girl and was abused. She is coming to me and I’m holding her. I’m her place to be where she’s totally peaceful.

What do you like most about yourself? What are your strengths?

I’m eternal, very loving and I contain all that is. I can handle as many souls as want peace. I’m ever-expanding. My love just keeps expanding.

What do you dislike most about yourself? Do you have weaknesses?  What are they?

People teach me things about myself. I am learning about myself all the time from the souls that come into me. It’s really not my business to be wise. I just help them see the bigger picture, what it’s really all about – learning that we’re all me, what I’m capable of when my energies go into a human body and become the consciousness of a human being.

Black Tunnel, you are in Barbara’s life experience, correct?  Did she create you?

She may think that but that would be her ego.

What aspect of Barbara do you represent or most closely personify?

I am like a hologram. I’m eternal and she is eternal. She can be all of me too.

Black Tunnel, if you could be anywhere you wanted to be and take any form you desired, would you change?  If so, how?

I want to be the observer watching humans becoming all that they can be and that they are me. I can be anything anyone wants me to be. She saw the light coming out of me. Some people think the light is God. But the light is coming out of the darkness, that is also God.

What do you think, Tunnel?

I think it’s all perfect!

(Continue, answering as the transformed object, if it chose to change.)

Black Tunnel, how would you score yourself 0-10, in each of the following six qualities: confidence, compassion, wisdom, acceptance, inner peace, and witnessing?  Why?

Confidence: 10 Because I just am. I was there when she needed me as a child, then when she was dying. I’m there now for her and for everyone. I’m pure love! It’s unconditional love that has no opposite.

Compassion: 10

Wisdom: ? I’m more of a mirror for people’s wisdom. I have no identity if I have no souls coming into me. Then I am a void. I grow in wisdom as I experience what the souls that come into me know.

Acceptance: 10 Reality just is. It’s a school. Everything that’s going on is the way it’s supposed to be going on.

Inner Peace: 9.99 I’m almost total peace but there are times when someone is hurting so bad that it makes a ripple in my inner peace.

Witnessing:   9.99 – for the same reasons!

A tear…why, Black Tunnel?

She hurts for people sometimes. She prays for them and hopes that they will pray for themselves. That’s Barbara’s humanness.

How would Barbara’s life be different if she naturally scored like you do in all six of these qualities all the time?

Would she be a Christ figure? I don’t know what that would look like. Few people accomplish that.

If you could live Barbara’s life for how would you live it differently?

We would live her life just the same but she wouldn’t have the little stress in her mind that she carries around.

Why not?

That’s left over from a lot of abuse in her childhood. There’s still a little bit left. If I came in we would just pop it!

What would that look like?

On the outside it would look the same. On the inside it would be all those qualities.

If you could live Barbara’s’s waking life for her today, would you handle her three life issues differently?  If so, how?

1 Make my new book into a movie.

I would handle it the same way but without worry. She feels compelled to tell the story of this woman who has died. I support her in this project but not in all the worrying she is doing about it.

2 One of my books was just rejected by a publisher. I have to accept that.

I would laugh about it! She’s gotten all upset because of the corruption in the system. It’s just the way it is. That system will self-destruct in time.

3 My granddaughter is starting nursery school – letting go.

I would keep reminding her that she’s done a wonderful job and they will both be happier when they have more space.

What three life issues would you focus on if you were in charge of Barbara’s life?

1. We would be in bliss! She has created a wonderful life for herself – from a living hell to a life where she is helping others, and she is in a loving partnership where they teach each other and they share wonderful children and grandchildren.

2. Inner peace! Bad things happen; that’s life. But we can still feel at peace within ourselves.

3. I would help her to continue to do everything healthy for an energized life until the day we leave the material world.

In what life situations would it be most beneficial for Barbara to imagine that she is you and act as you would?

When she’s in meditation. Being out in nature. Whenever she takes a deep sigh. Prayer and gratitude.  That’s when we’re together. Staring into darkness!

She could score herself 0-10 in her ability to become you while doing those activities. Would that be helpful, Tunnel?

Yes!

Black Tunnel, do you do drama?  If not, why not?

Humans do drama!  It’s the human condition! It’s not me! I watch and learn and try to absorb the drama so people can heal. Drama to me is a lack of love.

What is your secret for staying out of drama?

I am not capable of drama! I don’t have an ego!

When Barbara starts getting into drama what do you recommend she do?

She is already doing it – she isolates herself and talks it out with me.

Why do you think that you are in Barbara’s life?

I didn’t come into her life. I’m always there. She came to me from childhood abuse, lots of trauma. She would come to me to be safe. Then she forgot about me until she had her NDE.  I’m always there.

Black Tunnel, you sound complete, except for growing in wisdom!

Those who come to me without an ego don’t bounce back!  They stay! But you can’t interview the ones that stay! Laugh out loud!

So why do people have light or beings in NDEs if you are everything?

It’s beyond the scope of the English language to explain. There are all kinds of levels, possibilities and projections people make. It turns into a sort of kaleidoscope. The idea of a void is true. I’m love, God, her grandmother, everything. People get what they need from me and come back.

How is Barbara most likely to ignore what you are saying to her?

Barbara is taking it in on a cellular level. What you are bringing out are a lot of lessons that she has been getting lately.

Thank you, Tunnel!

Barbara, what have you heard yourself say?

What I just learned is that I really can carry that love of the tunnel in me all the time! I just have to let that little bit of stress in me go. I don’t need it.  I heard myself say, “I might become arrogant if I let go of that stress!”  That’s why I hold on to it! But what I believe I am hearing is as long as I have humility I’ll be OK. The tunnel can be me!

If this experience were a wake-up call from the most central part of yourself, what do you think it would be saying to you?

Mazel Tov! CONGRATULATIONS!

I realized last evening, after the interview, that the little bit of stress I was still carrying around seemed gone.And there’s no arrogance as my ego would have me believe — only gratitude and peaceful joy.

And then at bedtime, I relaxed in the darkness and explored to see if I could find it– the stress. It is gone! And I know that if I get it back I can go into the darkness and ask the tunnel to merge with me again. I am finally in peace!

You know how on our computer we can hit the “refresh” button — It seems that is what has happened with my NDE. It has been refreshed!!

This tunnel, an element from a recalled NDE, answered questions just as do dream characters and personifications of life issues in other types of IDL Dream Yoga interviews. What this tells us is that it is not the type of experience that is important; that IDL Dream Yoga interviews can be used meaningfully and with significant effect with any type of experience, including mystical experiences.  What matters is how well and how deeply the subject is able to identify with and become the interviewed character and to stay with that perspective throughout the interview. Barbara did an excellent job of speaking as Tunnel throughout the interview.

In general, we can find this Tunnel sharing many characteristics other, previously interviewed self-aspects that personify potential,including the six core qualities, that we are in the process of accessing, recognizing, and growing into. However, while such self-aspects generally score themselves highly for wisdom, the Tunnel reported that it has no inherent wisdom and that the wisdom that it gains depends on that which souls bring to it. Therefore, its level of wisdom is dependent upon the degree of wisdom possessed by evolving individuals. Since we do not have an absolute scale to measure such wisdom, the amount possessed by Tunnel remains in question. It could be a ten in relationship to us but a six or a three on some other scale of development.

In our continuing research into NDEs and the usefulness of IDL Dream Yoga to maintain the salience and potency of these events for transformational personal growth years afterward, we invite those who have had NDEs to contact us to arrange a pro bono SKYPE interview.

I asked Barbara for feedback on her experience several weeks afterward:

Is there life after death? If so, what is it like?  People have been debating this issue for thousands of years and coming up with all sorts of answers.  Is it like a dream?  Is it like deep sleep?  Is it more awake than waking?  Integral Deep Listening assumes that, regardless of whatever else life after death is, our awareness of it is mediated by our perception, which is itself conditioned by our social and cultural contexts.  Consequently, if we want to understand more clearly we need to suspend both our beliefs and skepticism and simply interview the people, objects, and contexts that appear in near death and life after death experiences.

Why would we want to do so?  Because such suspension of our biases and prejudices, in favor of simply listening to what this or that aspect of our greater, cosmic identity has to say is a fundamental act of respect and receptivity.  The result is that we are more likely to experience what wants to be heard instead of simply hearing what we want to hear.  When that happens, our waking biases are reinforced and we unwittingly confirm our own prejudices.  When, on the other hand, we experience what wants to be heard, we overcome the limitations of our previous worldview and grow into a perspective that transcends and includes it.  The result heals, balances, and transforms our lives.

The following example shows how you can work with someone else’s after-death experience as if it were your own.  That’s because it is yours – it is part of your waking dream, and spirit makes no differentiation between waking and sleeping dreams and between my experiences and yours.  To the extent that you take the experiences of others and internalize them, they become yours.

What are three fundamental life issues that you are dealing with now in your life?

1. Getting and staying clear.

2. Getting Integral Deep Listening to children and those who support their growth

3. Continuing this work in my next lifetime.

My near-death or after death experience:

When my mother was dying, Annette, one of my two sisters, saw a “being of light” appear in the room at the foot of her bed, with outstretched arm.  At the moment of my mother’s death, she saw her rise up out of her body and go with the figure.

What do you make of this experience?

Annette is intuitive with a long history of experiences and memories of before birth  and past life experiences.  They make her take the long view of life, which is a very good thing.

Choose a character, object, or context in this experience to interview…

The Being of Light

Now remember how as a child you liked to pretend you were a teacher or a doctor?  It’s easy and fun for you to imagine that you are this or that character in your dream and answer some questions I ask, saying the first thing that comes to your mind.  If you wait too long to answer, that’s not the character answering – that’s YOU trying to figure out the right thing to say!

Being of Light, would you please tell me about yourself and what you are doing?

I am coming to greet and accompany your mother Grace in her birth into my world.

What do you like most about yourself? What are your strengths?

I am tens in all six of your core qualities.

What do you dislike most about yourself? Do you have weaknesses?  What are they?

I have no weaknesses or limitations myself, however the nature of my reality is that it is rarely clearly disclosed to humans.  The openings between these two realms are infrequent, fleeting, and fragile, from a human point of view.  Otherwise, more would see the world and themselves very differently.  This will change as humanity evolves.  Our culture is not human culture.  But it is “humane” culture and it does embrace all humanity.

Being of Light, you are in this person’s life experience, correct?  They created you, right?_____  What aspect of this person do you represent or most closely personify?

I am that part of yourself that does not die, that is spirit, and that embodies the six core qualities.

Being of Light, if you could be anywhere you wanted to be and take any form you desired, would you change?  If so, how?

No.

(Continue, answering as the transformed object, if it chose to change.)

Being of Light, how would you score yourself 0-10, in confidence, compassion, wisdom, acceptance, peace of mind, and witnessing?  Why?

Confidence: 10 I cannot be hurt or die.  I have no fear.

Compassion: 10 I give myself completely and receive without reservation.

Wisdom: 10 One with the source of all, what is there not to know?

Acceptance: 10 What is there not to accept?

Inner Peace: 10 Nothing can disturb my beingness and presence.

Witnessing: 10 I am like the sky; I witness everything.

How would the life of the person who created you be different if he naturally scored high in all six of these qualities all the time?

He would incarnate my consciousness and the consciousness of my realm (they are the same), which is a major purpose of life and evolution.

If you could live the life of the person who created you for him, how would you live it differently?

I would redouble my efforts to embody those six core qualities.

If you could live this person’s waking life for him today, would you handle his three life issues differently?  If so, how?

1. Getting and staying clear: More meditation being the sky breathing you.

2. Getting Integral Deep Listening to children and those who support their growth: Continue to generate light in people, without regard to its source or consequence for you.

3. Continuing this work in my next lifetime: Lifetimes are stories, like dreams.  Spirit doesn’t do lifetimes or dreams.  Just focus on maximizing your experience of the six core qualities now.

What three life issues would you focus on if you were in charge of his life?

1. Beingness. Bringing it forward, into the forefront of awareness.

2. Continue to suspend assumptions and ask questions.

3. Enjoy life!

In what life situations would it be most beneficial for this person to imagine that they are you and act as you would?

Only when you want to live!

Why do you think that you are in this person’s life?

To help him wake up, to help him think outside of the box and to remember that there will always be contexts, realities, and dreams that transcend and include his puny understanding.

How is this person most likely to ignore what you are saying to them?

Go back to sleep! Stay addicted to his normal viewpoint, frame of reference, and life dream.

What would you recommend that they do about that?

It’s a work in progress!  Everybody is in the same situation, which makes life a tragicomedy.  Just laugh at the absurdity of it all to keep yourself from being overwhelmed by the poignancy of all the needless suffering.

I think this person had this experience because…

his sister told him about it.  Because it is a statement of the reality of life after death.

I think this event happened or (some character) was in the dream because…

Anything that is external is objective and therefore seems more real and more powerful, partially because it is experienced as less controlled and less known.  Anything that is internal is subjective and therefore seems less real.  It is experienced as more controllable and more mundane.  All of these assumptions are incorrect, in that they are partial.  They are seen to be illusory whenever they are questioned.   On one level I came to provide comfort and direction.  From another, I came to demonstrate that the dream of life never stops.  From my perspective it is seamless.

What have you heard yourself say?

That such experiences come to wake us up out of our complacency regarding what is real and true and what is not.   That we have to be careful about drawing conclusions about whether such experiences are real or true or what they ultimately mean.

If this experience were a wake-up call from your soul, what do you think it would be saying to you?

Wake up!  Become the six core qualities!  Become beingness!

What experiences have you had with near death experiences and life after death?  Interview them!  You can find the format here.  Please send me a copy and I will anonymously post it on this site to help others!